Out Of Wedlock Children

I read an article today that said that 41% of Americans still believe that a couple that has a child with out being married is WRONG.  Who are these people?  I really don't see what the big deal is.  Now, don't get me wrong I got married 2yrs before we had my Son but it really had to do with timing and whether we were ready.  I don't really think we said, "OK, we are married so now we are ALLOWED to reproduce."

In my family there are five Sons (Me plus my four older Brothers).  Between us five we have given my Parents seven grandchildren.  Two boys and five girls (2 of my brothers apparently aren't man enough to make boys).  My Son is the only one that was conceived after wedlock.  In fact, I am still the only one that has gotten married.  But this doesn't make my Brothers bad people, or the Grandkids bad kids, and my Parents definitely accept the kids because they are awesome and no matter what, they ARE BLOOD.  I am pretty sure my Brothers aren't going to go to hell because of this either.  My Son is not better than the rest because he is from married Parents, he is better than the rest merely by default, because his Parents are just WAY COOLER...lol!  No seriously, in my family he gets treated like the rest of the kids, he gets treated LIKE FAMILY.

I have heard of families not accepting a child as family because the child was born out of wedlock.  I can't imagine ever being so self-righteous that I wouldn't except a child in to my life that had some of MY blood running through his or her veins. It's definitely different when your Child comes home from High School and tells you she is pregnant or has gotten a girl pregnant.  But when your kid is in his or her 20's, or 30's even and decides to have a child with someone that they aren't married too, well then that's they're decision and it should be ACCEPTABLE FOR THE ENTIRE FAMILY.  Well, unless the other person is an asshole...

Bottom line is, it's OK to have an out of wedlock child.  Is it better to be married?  I have no clue.  Just be a Parent or Uncle or Aunt or Grandparent or whatever your Family Tie is to this child and love them for being in your life.  Don't judge these children for something that was completely out of their control.


Cheers!


K.A. Ball